Moving Hate to Group Growth (Sports, Beers and Bullies)?

Most people change and adapt throughout their lives when placed in the right environment with the right pressures. Some become stuck in a way thinking and when their narrow viewpoint clashes with the world around them they may utilize their social networks to confirm that their perception is the "correct" one. The problem is that there are many different ways of viewing the world and to say one is correct over the other often leads to conflict as good conscious is replaced by use of force and intimidation to ensure their perception is the leading one (Self identity and world view are associated.). 

Most people if asked can relate the strengths and failures as a person and have some level of remorse when hasty choices are destructive. When false perceptions are confirmed by dysfunctional groups there is little to no internal learning (Its not race, religion ore even country specific). They are having difficulty moving outside of that mold to change their perspective and that in turn carries with it ongoing risks of future need to confirm their distorted views through their social networks. 

I use the term "sports, beers and bullies" because the group is question has not changed much from highschool nor have they adapted well to global shifts. They have the same identities and seem to relish in this antiquated viewpoint of themselves. There is little fear walking among them, shaking their hands, and saying "hi" because I know where they come from. I came from the very same background but along the path I traveled have been exposed (mostly willing but sometimes unwilling) to all the colors under the sky.

The problem is we can't allow such groups to continue to develop a new generation of narrow minded individuals for fear that they will not be able to compete effectively on a global world. Opportunities will run through their fingers whether or not they are aware of those opportunities. They will continue to slip in position and stature and helping them means bringing greater awareness to their lives. Unfortunately, as with all kinds of cultic outlooks they rely on the same self-confirmed logic through the same networks and thus unexposed. 

While my strategy is to be polite and friendly I'm not unaware of the ongoing risks when groups get upset and in turn are willing to act on these unquestioned loyalties. Most of the members are very good people and not willing to engage in wanton destruction. Yet there are some who are emboldened and all to willing to force their inappropriate values on others. They call me a "bitch" because I refuse to submit to group intimidation and have the skills to stand for something greater (Its not about them or even me.). 

There are values that take precedence that go back to our time honored principles as a nation. We have generations of people who died for those beliefs and it would be dishonorable to allow them to be trashed because people can be easily manipulated. They know little of me and what they do know is unlikely to be accurate (In some ways I can't blame them...they have no way of cognitively bridging the gap.). What I can say is that as our nation globalizes their limited beliefs are unlikely to serve their long term interests well (They will increasingly become the fringe.). Yet there is still hope they have learned from this situation...I know I have.("Know thy neighbor")

So where do we go from here? I'm not sure. I will be around serving my community (like I have served them even though they do not know it....but will likely become aware at some point in the future.) and of course will go where I want and when I want. Rage and hate has no place in our communities anymore as it holds us back from our full potential as a nation and people. So I smile with a little sadness as a sort of kindness for I know there is so much untapped potential here. Maybe we can change that for the next generation.

"Raise your words, not voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.” Rumi