I come from a difficult background, one of those that would make most people either cringe or cry. People often feel they will be limited by their backgrounds and that they are doomed to whatever lot they started out in life. I'm here to say that this isn't necessarily true. Yes...you will be limited by the beliefs others taught you but you can overcome those limitations if you learn to self-reflect. Where I grew up image is everything. I've had some very good people in my life and I appreciate them and honor them but there were some very cruel individuals suffering from mental health (This is one reason why we have to deal with mental health better. People who suffer can often be sadistic to others).
It would be a shame to live one's whole life and never share any wisdom or knowledge you may have picked up over the years. Some people may need that advice and are wondering how they may reach out past the "cave" in which they grew up.
First, let me say that I had and still maintain some desire to go into politics. While I have a political party I have more interest in helping my country then serving myself. I'm not easily blinded by ideology and have spent a good amount of time studying ideology and learning how there are root assumptions in political, religious, and ethnic parties.
1. You learn to give when you come from a difficult background.
Second the values we are taught are not always the values we should keep and carry. For example, in the world I grew up in I have had very few words of encouragement and had to develop my own personal belief systems about what is right and wrong. I spent a lot of time studying religion and other people to come to a sense of moral rightness. Understanding is the first key to doing....and you will stumble often.
2. Challenge the erroneous beliefs others have taught you.
Third, capitalizing on the skills you have learned. Because I have been on my own since childhood in terms of completing school, solving life problems, and for the most part taking care of myself I have develop skills of self-resilience. Where most people would have been crushed by difficult situations that seemingly don't have a solution to persevering and making your own course in life. I think that will serve me well in politics...the ability to think and act on my own volition. Yes I can work with others but won't be one who blindly follows ideology and rhetoric...I have seen a lot of "lip service" in my life. One person even hinted that if I state the truth of what happened they will exploit my Muslim name with local law enforcement...and they did...and while local law enforcement realized the false information...no one went back to hold them accountable (Its worse then the video of the woman calling the police and saying a dangerous Black man was threatening her because he aske her to put her dog on a leash in a public park).
3. Capitalize on your skills you learned to overcome difficult people and situations.
Fourth, understand the skills that were inherent in your being. One of the advantages, and sometimes disadvantages I faced, is a very high IQ. It took me decades to recognize it because most people called me dumb, put me down, or simply lied (I heard Einstein was treated that way). Yes...as I child I dealt with childhood trauma but after a number of IQ studies and assessments I am diagnosed with a Genius IQ level and as of present no other mental health issues. Its not what people think...I still make lots of spelling errors....its just a way of thinking and connecting information.
4. Learn to enhance your innate skills.
Fifth, always keep in mind that the things people tell you about yourself isn't always true. Many of these people were dealing with their own issues but have almost no self-reflection on how their early loss has created a cold, judgmental, and dishonest personality. They lack any real awareness about how their self-perceptions and perceptions of others are skewed to cover their own feelings of loss the worthlessness. Don't expect them to ever do to the right things in life if it challenges their delusional self-importance.
5. Those who judge often struggle with self-image issues.
Sixth, own what is yours and let them own what is theirs. We are not perfect people but I'm a pretty good person. I don't always think about myself first and try and do what is right even though it doesn't always benefit myself. A lot of people are so self-consumed they build these elaborate justifications for self-gratification (i.e. this becomes very apparent in incidents of money such as inheritance). There is little to no recourse legally for such behaviors so when people have "gamed" the system you are unlikely to have someone step in protect people's rights. Some people will go to any length to advantage themselves at all costs. That includes lying, bullying, encouraging violence, providing false information all for these little pieces of paper that have no value beyond the subjective value we give them.
6. Know what you own and what is someone else's. Often there is little to no legal protections for criminal behavior (especially when such people are considered "locals" so protect your boundaries at all costs.
At my age, I don't really care much what people think about me. I have been judged much of my life for things that have absolutely nothing to do with me. Yet...in our older age we understand how these abusive backgrounds can lead to insight into the nature of people and our responsibility to help others. Running for politics, inventing helpful economic models, encouraging orphans and the downtrodden to state their needs, and to fight against immoral/unethical practices are important. While I agree with all this I'm also a big believer in building a strong economy where people can realize their full potential; no matter what their background. I would love to contribute to making out nation just a little better. We cannot switch one background for another but we can help make the world a better place so that others don't have to trail blaze each time they fight against injustice. Trust me, when you deal with narcissistic personality issues there will never be a way of pleasing the unpleasable. Most of the time you will be very much alone in your endeavors as most people view the world by very superficial images and impressions often take precedence over truth.
I believe in justice..just not the self-serving kind that limit people's ability for resolution and accountability. There will be a lot of people who will likely thwart someone with a Muslim name and a more universal belief in the value of all religions from going into politics. That is the inherent discrimination and bias in society when good people cannot come forward because they don't fit a magazine image of what modern politicians look like. Image might get one voted in but it thus far hasn't done much for anyone.
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